its aquestion for man



my ways:
1-love him and feed him
2-trea him good
3-respect him
4-Give him lots of space
5-sometimes u must leave him alone
6-talk with him and discuss life matter
7-advice him and encourge him to be succussful man
8-everyday tell him that he is the best man
9-be agood wife and wisdome
10- dont look to another man

ithink ineed ahusband to try this way

That is very good Always_Pain but is rather obvious do you not think? Do what comes naturally to you. That is my answer.

This thread could have gone on forever.. it could even have been handy in the adult section.

your mind is just always in the gutter. all we need is a cuddle.

I'm not cuddling you!

just a quick peck then?

If you buy me a drink first!

a repost then, just for 'balance' here...



"...the old joke what is the one thing a woman wants? Everything, springs to mind..." Jats rests his chin on his hand and stares at the rain drizzling outside his window thinking on the question still "...it depends entirely on the woman I choose to try to would be the answer given then and helped by the little time I have left now for in this modern time I doubt I could keep a woman happy for a lifetime if I was twenty still, even if I was the 'perfect man' that so many seek now, as people change as they grow, so I guess the secret is to be content with the imperfect woman who is perfect for you should you find her then, and not keep wishing..."

I think you can get him pissed if you work so hard to make him happy, people just choose to be happy or not and they do so by managing effectively circumstances and daily occurrences and then by wanting to be happy. you just need to add a little fun and be your self.

nice first post.

The trick is, never ask them to marry. And always use a condom (which you flush immediately after).

The qestion is - WHY should it work?

If he like fresh, warm food - he will enjoy fresh food every evening.
but if he is not into food (like me), or enjoy coocking for himself (like my father), you'll find that after hours in the kitchen, he ignores your food - and even complain.
same goes for most of the others - they can backfire badly.
(except 3 and 10. making him jealous is stupid he'll just hate you. disrespect will make you irrelevant)

what you had given is THE reason why woman get to be that horrible wife stereotype.
you try to adopt a "generic perfect wife" role, without finding out what your man wants.
he ignores it, as he didn't want it anyway (he don't need another mother) - while you get bitter as time passes.
eventually he consider you as a "generic crazy wife" and try to avoid you.

i think most important one is "respect him"

Wow. Hit the nail on the head. If you can't maintain respect, you can't deserve your man. IE., you don't understand MEN.

By love and respect him.

my opinion-
make sure you look hot 24/7, wear cute matching underwear, not granny knickers! lol but also be a nice person, honest, reliable, caring, understanding, listen to each other, like above ppl said, respect,
i dont think its about cooking or cleaning at all, cooking for a man aaint gonna make you keep him, or it shouldent be one sided...like...how to keep a man, it should be how to keep a relationship, otherwise it sounds as though you have no confidence, its about keeping each other and making each other happy...............

i kinda like granny pants.

OK, you are basically correct. I have had many affairs over the years and have lived with a few different women. Eight years ago I married a girl here in Indonesia and, for the first time in my life, I have absolutely no interest in any other female. Yuyun (her name) is always happy and smiling. I honestly have never known her to be in a bad mood. She is always affectionate and responsive. She never shouts or nags, always asking me to do something rather than telling me. Unlike you, we really never like to be apart from each other, having space as you put it. She loves to cook and loves to make food that I enjoy. Yes, communication is important. We understand each other really well. We never bother with Valentines Day as we tell each other several times a day how much we love each other. She takes extremely good care of herself and her breath and body never smell bad. I find her just as exciting today as when we first met. I think that one of the sectrets is appreciation and to never to take each other for granted.

I've no idea how to keep a man happy .... never thought about it much.
Though the guy I'm with hasn't traded me in for the last 30 odd years so I must be doing something right.
Either that or I've just worn him out.



You sound a lovely fella. Us girls have to keep our nether regions warm.

An active sex life helps, when your married that can just fade away!

Being good in the kitchen helps too.

Heres a quick list I think the ladies on here might find useful

1) Never ask us what we are thinking then be dissapointed when we tell you. It will be something random like "Why have dogs got wet noses?" This is nothing personnal it's just the way our minds work.

2) When we have just got in from a hards day work please give us a bit of time before you want to talk about YOUR day. Ask us about ours and you'll get "Was ok/was rubbish". Yours goes on for hours. We respect you enough to pretend we are interested please respect us enough to keep it short.

3) Don't ask us what we think of oh lets say jeans or shirts.......or clothes in general when we are out shopping. If we say something is "OK/Alright" it means we aren't too fussed. Pleased don't start getting all these ok's into the trolley then make us try them all on.

4) For all our bluster our ego's are very fragile and while we will never say it, or hint for compliments the odd one every day goes a long way.

5) Be spontanious when it comes to the sexy stuff ladies. Women like sex as much as men so why do you's as a whole pretend you's don't. Once in a while suprise us with something naughty. We will repay you ten fold for just one instance of this.

6) Don't every say "oh he's nice" when someone comes on the telly or film that you's fancy then take the huff when we do the same thing. Double standards aint cool.

I hope these 6 little tips were helpful

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